Sometimes people ask me, “Klaudia, have you never had a failure?”
And what I say ? well, I’ve had a million failures but I’ve never seen any of them as failures. I’m telling you this with all honesty. In my mind, I’ve never labeled them as failures. I’ve always thought because of those early experiences, that they were just that, experiences for me to learn, to improve, to tweak, to adjust my course, and figure out a better way to do something.
In this short guide I suggest you some ideas how to overcome failure and how to get back to the right track.
FIVE STEPS HOW TO OVERCOME FAILURE
# Step 1 KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
Sitting around sulking is never a good idea. Whether you put an offer in on your dream home and didn’t get it, you lost a job or you broke up with our significant other, try as much as you can to focus on other things and move on with life. Sometimes sulking is necessary for a little while, but the only way you’re truly going to get over your failure is by moving on from it. Don’t let your past determine your future.
# Step 2 ACCEPT THAT FAILURE IS PART OF LIFE
Let’s stop for a moment and take the time to consider how failure is simply a natural part of life. In fact, failure is life. Throughout human history, we as a species have failed time and again. We tried new and unfamiliar things, we attempted improbable feats, we pushed the boundaries of our comfort zones, and we failed miserably. But failure of course doesn’t mean the end of the road. In fact, failure can actually bring with it opportunities for reinvention, for new beginnings, and for refining our approach. It can bring with it new perspectives and understandings that can help us move forward in a better way.
# Step 3 TAKE OWNERSHIP FOR YOUR FAILURE
In order to deal with failure in an optimal way requires proper perspective. However, before we even get to a point where we start seeing our failure as a helpful experience, it’s vital that we first take full ownership of that experience. This effectively means to stop complaining, to stop making excuses, and to stop blaming anything or anyone outside of ourselves. Instead, openly acknowledge what just happened and take full responsibility for your predicament. Taking responsibility is of course not about taking the blame. It rather means taking ownership and empowering yourself to take control of how you respond to this situation.
# Step 4 LEARN THE LESSON & ANSWER THE QUESTIONS
Always acknowledge what is the reason why I “failure” – what is the lesson. It doesn’t matter if it’s a lesson in why I succeeded in something, or if I’m reflecting on a failure.
It’s important to take the time to reflect if you’re serious about your growth.
Wouldn’t you like to find commonalities of things you did well and things that might be hindering your success?
Being able to identify pain-points is absolutely crucial for your growth. Otherwise, you will find yourself getting frustrated time and time again about the same things.
Eventually, this kind of refection will become pretty automatic after much practice, but it’s important to set time aside to evaluate your work habit and where you’re at with your goals.
Ask yourself questions like:
- What can you learn from this? This is the time to take responsibility for things that went wrong. Look at the situation objectively— what are some of the key things that happened?
- What could you have done differently? You’ve identified some of the key things that happened, and hopefully identified areas where things went wrong. What other options did you have? What choices did you make? Could you have done anything differently?
- What choices/steps would you make differently next time?
- Where do you need to improve? Was this an issue of ability or motivation? Are there any skills you can improve on to ensure success next time?
- What books or courses are available to help you? Put together a personal development plan to gain the skills and experiences you need!
- Who can you learn from? Who can you turn to for advice or ask questions? Do you have anyone in your life who can give you constructive feedback? Don’t be afraid to ask for help— this could be a game changer for you.
- What will you do next? Create an action plan! What will you do differently or do the same next time? Take a look at your goals and make any necessary changes.
# Step 5 GIVE YOURSELF ANOTHER CHANCE
Just begin again. Failure can devastate you if you allow it to. It can also help you rebuild yourself and restart your journey if you choose to.
Failure shouldn’t be the end of your dreams, goals, and aspirations. The power of failure should motivate you to chase your goals, take a fresh start and make a new beginning. Let failure make you stronger, tougher and more resilient so that you don’t just survive it but you’ll bounce back stronger.
To deal with failure successfully takes introspection, perspective, courage and faith. It takes introspection to make peace with failure. It takes proper perspective to see the value in your predicament. It then takes courage to try and make the best of your situation, and of course faith to know that it will all work out in the end. When all four factors are in play, that is when you will know that you have what it takes to successfully deal with failure.
Jump into a positive frame of mind. Nothing can inspire you more than your personal experience and your own success story. You know you have dealt with it before and can do it again.
And remember: As you continue to grow in life and in your business, make sure you continue to fail forward!